Most friendships develop naturally, so you don't even remember how they started. Sometimes, though, you want to make the effort to get together with a new acquaintance or to become a better existing friend. To help you in this field, here are some suggestions to help you grow your acquaintance faster.
1. Copy them
Subtly mimic another person's behavior. As you talk, try to adopt their body language, gesture, and facial expression. In 1999, a the University of New York survey documented the "chameleon effect" that occurs when people unknowingly imitate one another, and this copying suggests that they like each other a certain way.
2. Spend more time together
People claim to love the things that are familiar and inherent to them. College students who live closer to one another are more likely to be closer friends than those who live further away. This is because neighbors together can carry out activities that are more passive and every day. Under such conditions, their relationship can turn into a true friendship.
3. Give them a compliment
"The beautiful word iron door opens." If you describe the other as original and well-intentioned, people will also see you that way. But if you talk badly about others, others will think you are too.
4. Be in a good mood
"Emotional contagion" is what happens when people are strongly influenced by the moods of others. People unconsciously feel what they do around them. If you want to make others happy, make sure you leave a positive vibration during communication.
5. Make friends with their friends
Two people will be closed if they have a mutual friend. Just pay attention when someone sends you a Facebook friendship request - you are more likely to accept that person if you have mutual friends.
6. Don't give them compliments all the time
The positive comments you make will have a better impact on them if you make them occasionally.
7. Be cordial and capable
Research has shown the theory that people judge others by their cordiality and ability. If you do not want to compete with others and are friendly, people will feel that they can trust you. If you have a higher economic and educational status, you are more likely to be respected. However, first, express your cordiality and then your ability.
8. Reveal your flaws from time to time
People will like you more if you make the mistake from time to time, but only if they believe you are mostly a capable person. By showing them that you are not perfect, you will become more receptive to them.
9. Touch them periodically
This is called "subliminal touching," which happens when you touch a person without barely grasping it. Examples are when you touch a friend's hand or pat him on the back, which will make him feel more comfortable in your company.
10. Laugh
A survey was conducted on social networks that showed that people would rather like a photo of a person laughing than a serious one.
11. See them the way they want to be seen
People want to be seen and understood in a way that is equal to their experience of themselves. We all seek confirmation of our beliefs, both positive and negative.
12. Share a secret with them
Ask them something personal - for example, what kind of relationship they have with their parents. It will make you feel closer. You can do this at the very beginning of the introduction, in the sense that you start with light questions (such as the movie last night at the cinema) to something more private. When they feel more personal, they will want to be trusted in the future.
13. Express your sense of humor
This is very important. Everyone who wants to have a good time wants a laugh. Don't be intimidated by this, but feel free to express your witty vision of certain things.
14. Let them talk about themselves
A Harvard study found that talking about yourself can be as effective for you as food, money, and sex can be.
